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EMScommercial
5138 Posts |
 Posted - 05/13/2008 : 07:44:27 AM
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I KNOW this hasn't anything to do with mortgages, dscr or appraisals....
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I can't talk to anyone about it, and maybe blabbing this out on the web will somehow make a part of me feel better....
I found out yesterday morning that my best childhood friend died at 40 years of age.... died of heart failure! His wife just gave me the news.
How does that make any sense? Seemingly healthy 'Professional' frisbee golf player (I teased him about the professional part and he'd say 'hey, i've earned nearly a thousand bucks this year!'.
He had just built a new home for he and his recently new wife and had moved in less than two months ago. I was planning on visiting them next month.
I don't know what I expect from telling everyone this. I've been in a funk for two days now. If i've been 'short' with any of you - sorry.
Anyway - i guess we should try to enjoy life, because we don't know when we are checking out! |
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Carpet Muncher
1385 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 07:49:46 AM
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| Sorry to hear that Chris. |
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jennettecj
9 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 07:50:20 AM
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| I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a friend at such a young age is hard. Prayers go out to you and the family of your friend! |
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AGreene00
2820 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 07:52:33 AM
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| We had a former LO that died of a heart attack at age 38 about 2 years ago. It can happen at anytime. Sad stuff. |
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MortgageBoarder
4032 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 07:59:06 AM
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| My best goes out to you & his family Chris!! |
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brandie
3260 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 08:02:22 AM
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<I've been in a funk for two days now. If i've been 'short' with any of you - sorry.> quote.
Hey Chris it is ok and you are forgiven...this time! But next time I will have to really think about it. ;)
Sorry to hear about your friend.
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Polly
258 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 08:08:48 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss Chris.
I lost my younger brother in Nov, He was 46 yrs old and so we
thought healthy as a horse. He had a massive heart attack
in his sleep. If I thought my family was close before this
brought us together in so many other wonderful ways.
I thank God for the time I had with him. |
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nowbroker
1386 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 08:18:16 AM
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Wow, that must be hard Chris. Things like this put life into perspective doesn't it? We should all thank God of what we do have, and the time we have on this planet.
God does not promise us an easy journey.... only a safe arrival. |
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EMScommercial
5138 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 08:21:01 AM
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So sorry to hear about your brother Paulette.
I like that last line nowbroker.... |
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mykal5
2867 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 08:21:09 AM
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quote:
Originally posted by EMScommercial
I KNOW this hasn't anything to do with mortgages, dscr or appraisals....
But....
I can't talk to anyone about it, and maybe blabbing this out on the web will somehow make a part of me feel better....
I found out yesterday morning that my best childhood friend died at 40 years of age.... died of heart failure! His wife just gave me the news.
How does that make any sense? Seemingly healthy 'Professional' frisbee golf player (I teased him about the professional part and he'd say 'hey, i've earned nearly a thousand bucks this year!'.
He had just built a new home for he and his recently new wife and had moved in less than two months ago. I was planning on visiting them next month.
I don't know what I expect from telling everyone this. I've been in a funk for two days now. If i've been 'short' with any of you - sorry.
Anyway - i guess we should try to enjoy life, because we don't know when we are checking out!
Sorry to hear. Now is the time to focus on the gifts he gave, and the treasures he left. And in the spirit of your good friend go out today with a smile on your face, your head held high and give to others what he gave you. |
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ritabradley01
3228 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 08:28:53 AM
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| I'm sorry about your friend Chris. |
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psantos
571 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 08:31:30 AM
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Sorry to hear about your loss!
I lost my dad last month, I know how you feel.
He was my best friend. Its tough but remember the good times, sort of a cliche, but good memories can never be erased.
Paul |
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EMScommercial
5138 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 09:53:48 AM
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Sorry for your loss Paul... I watched my father pass away a few years ago.... we were very close and a large chapter of my life was cut from my chest when that happened.....
Not cliche.... memories are all we have when a loved one departs us here on Earth...
Thanks to all of you for all the nice thoughts.... |
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psantos
571 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 10:02:00 AM
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I think what has helped me the most was my brothers and sisters.
I have one brother and 2 sisters, its tough losing a parent. we actually lost my mom about 20 years ago, so we have really banded together after the loss of our dad.
It will get better, talking to those close to you really helps to eliminate some of the sadness. Also just being available for his remaining family, will help both you and his remaining loved ones.
Another cliche, he was a close friend, and they are hard to find, he would want you to remember the good times you had together.
best wishes
Paul |
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cspatmon
2149 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 10:17:22 AM
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| My heart goes out to you during this difficult period in your life. I'm thankful that you shared....It brings me back as a reminder on what's truly important in this life. Family and Friends. |
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homebroker@sbcgl
3532 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 11:23:16 AM
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| This is so sad and so young, it is scary. No past history of problems or obesity. One of our loan officers sons is only 26 years old and has congestive heart failure, he is way overweight and has lost 60 pound this month. Sad to see people so young die or struggle for life. |
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jason3974
287 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 11:28:51 AM
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| I'm sorry for your loss and will keep you and your friends family in my prayers. I went through a string of deaths this year including an uncle, grandpa, and a close friend from church. If not for prayer, I don't know if I would have gotten through any of it. |
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EMScommercial
5138 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 12:30:54 PM
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| thanks for the nice words here and for those of you who have written me emails - most appreciated.... |
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gsgroupinc
2035 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 12:37:58 PM
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| I am 39 going to be 40 in July. On Aug 28 2007 I was at the gym and had a heart attack. 3 stents later I am good to go. I have bad gentics and know it. When it is our time it is our time. Prayers for the family....live life it is short!!!! |
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EMScommercial
5138 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 2:32:09 PM
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Wow Steven. That's amazing.
This whole thing has made me look differently at myself in the mirror!
Thanks again for all the kind words. |
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katroberts
1208 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 2:36:51 PM
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So sorry, Christopher.
As an aside, I hope you are not near the fires right now. |
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EMScommercial
5138 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 2:40:58 PM
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| Well, the fires are an hour to the south of us (the worst ones so far) and 45 minutes to the north of us. Thanks for asking. |
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Shuggins
1011 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 2:54:59 PM
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| Sorry for your loss Chris. You're in our thoughts! |
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velecico
3997 Posts |
Posted - 05/13/2008 : 6:39:55 PM
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I know I am checking out by 50 , all my family has heart problems or cancer !!! , dad has had 3 open hearts !!! he is 75 , looks great from the outside , you would swear he is 59-60 !! |
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psantos
571 Posts |
Posted - 05/14/2008 : 05:59:43 AM
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Nick:
Genetics play a part, but its not someting you cannot overcome!
Time to quit smoking (if you do) And get on the treadmill!.
I am 39, 8 years ago I was diagnosed with hypertension, genetic in nature.
I quit the caffeine, lost 15 pounds, work out religiously.
BP 120\70 like clockwork! Haven't had to take BP meds for years.
Take care of yourself bud. 
Paul |
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dnuex2
2990 Posts |
Posted - 05/14/2008 : 06:09:20 AM
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| I had a good friend pass when she was 21 from heart failure, happens all the time... |
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gsgroupinc
2035 Posts |
Posted - 05/14/2008 : 06:19:18 AM
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quote:
Originally posted by psantos
Nick:
Genetics play a part, but its not someting you cannot overcome!
Time to quit smoking (if you do) And get on the treadmill!.
I am 39, 8 years ago I was diagnosed with hypertension, genetic in nature.
I quit the caffeine, lost 15 pounds, work out religiously.
BP 120\70 like clockwork! Haven't had to take BP meds for years.
Take care of yourself bud.
Paul
Like I said above I was at the gym when I had a heart attack ...GENETICs are the killer. I ride about 80 miles a week and work out an additional 3 days a week doing other stuff and REALLY watch what I eat and I still had a heart attack at 39 |
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Coffee Is 4 Clos
1638 Posts |
Posted - 05/14/2008 : 06:24:52 AM
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Chris- I lost my best friend in a car accident in March survived by his wife and 3 year old son. It's rough anytime one leaves us but it is especially difficult when they were taken in their prime of life... so much more to do and one realizes how our daily problems are a joke compared to the big picture. I remember a conversation I had the night before we lost him with a fellow LO. We were scared to death about the market and worried about money. The day after I called the same LO friend to cover for me at work and the first thing he said was how bad he felt complaining the night before about somthing as stupid as loans, the market and deals.
We can complain and whine about our daily trials and tribualtions but when something like this happens a slap from reality strikes us across the cheek. |
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EMScommercial
5138 Posts |
Posted - 05/14/2008 : 4:17:40 PM
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a bit of an update....
i just received word that my buddy had written me a letter and his wife just found it in his briefcase.... she is sending it to me....
that's kinda cool! |
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velecico
3997 Posts |
Posted - 05/14/2008 : 5:55:48 PM
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quote:
Originally posted by gsgroupinc
quote:
Originally posted by psantos
Nick:
Genetics play a part, but its not someting you cannot overcome!
Time to quit smoking (if you do) And get on the treadmill!.
I am 39, 8 years ago I was diagnosed with hypertension, genetic in nature.
I quit the caffeine, lost 15 pounds, work out religiously.
Thats why I rather do what I like now and not worry about , I just had a 22 ounce rib eye , bloody , with 2 glasses or red wine and some ice cream , I hate working out
BP 120\70 like clockwork! Haven't had to take BP meds for years.
Take care of yourself bud.
Paul
Like I said above I was at the gym when I had a heart attack ...GENETICs are the killer. I ride about 80 miles a week and work out an additional 3 days a week doing other stuff and REALLY watch what I eat and I still had a heart attack at 39
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lunarhamster
4038 Posts |
Posted - 05/14/2008 : 6:18:59 PM
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| That is a sad story. Sorry to hear. |
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Hustler12
1293 Posts |
Posted - 05/14/2008 : 7:51:51 PM
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Sorry for your loss Chris. I lost both my father and grandfather in their early 50's due to heart disease. My dad died when I was 10(I'm 31 now), and every day I wonder if that is my fate too. I have a 4yr old and couldn't imagine leaving her in 6 years. I work out all the time and eat right in hopes that I stave off what seems to be my fate. It scares the sh1t out of me. I don't know why I am writing all this to you, maybe I'm just talking to myself out loud.
Make every day the best day possible and treat every day like it might be your last. Sometimes, posts like this is a good reminder for all.
My prayers are with you, his widow and their family |
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CoolMtgGuy
3714 Posts |
Posted - 05/14/2008 : 8:36:41 PM
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quote:
Originally posted by EMScommercial
I KNOW this hasn't anything to do with mortgages, dscr or appraisals....
But....
I can't talk to anyone about it, and maybe blabbing this out on the web will somehow make a part of me feel better....
I found out yesterday morning that my best childhood friend died at 40 years of age.... died of heart failure! His wife just gave me the news.
How does that make any sense? Seemingly healthy 'Professional' frisbee golf player (I teased him about the professional part and he'd say 'hey, i've earned nearly a thousand bucks this year!'.
He had just built a new home for he and his recently new wife and had moved in less than two months ago. I was planning on visiting them next month.
I don't know what I expect from telling everyone this. I've been in a funk for two days now. If i've been 'short' with any of you - sorry.
Anyway - i guess we should try to enjoy life, because we don't know when we are checking out!
Hey ... we care. Sorry for your loss of your friend and my condolences to his family.
Since you shared this with us, let me share mine with you.
A few weeks ago, I got in my car and drove nonstop from Jacksonville FL to Connecticut ... 1100 miles. Decided to drive as a stress reliever ... ignoring the phone and enjoying the music loud. Arrived in CT and called my wife to tell her that I had arrived safely. That's when my wife told me that my mom died early that morning but my brother told her to not call me until I had arrived at my destination. My passport was back at home and I could not get on a flight without it so I missed her funeral. Been in a funk for three weeks too. Life is precious! |
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EMScommercial
5138 Posts |
Posted - 05/15/2008 : 09:37:52 AM
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| Oh my Lord.... That is a terrible story.... The same as others have said to me, I must say - you and your family are in my prayers.... Yes, life is precious.... you never know when it is your last time you will see someone (or they will see you)..... Keep the good memories of your mom.... I'm sure you do..... Take care of yourself.... Chris |
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katroberts
1208 Posts |
Posted - 05/15/2008 : 10:14:05 AM
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quote:
Originally posted by CoolMtgGuy
quote:
Originally posted by EMScommercial
I KNOW this hasn't anything to do with mortgages, dscr or appraisals....
But....
I can't talk to anyone about it, and maybe blabbing this out on the web will somehow make a part of me feel better....
I found out yesterday morning that my best childhood friend died at 40 years of age.... died of heart failure! His wife just gave me the news.
How does that make any sense? Seemingly healthy 'Professional' frisbee golf player (I teased him about the professional part and he'd say 'hey, i've earned nearly a thousand bucks this year!'.
He had just built a new home for he and his recently new wife and had moved in less than two months ago. I was planning on visiting them next month.
I don't know what I expect from telling everyone this. I've been in a funk for two days now. If i've been 'short' with any of you - sorry.
Anyway - i guess we should try to enjoy life, because we don't know when we are checking out!
Hey ... we care. Sorry for your loss of your friend and my condolences to his family.
Since you shared this with us, let me share mine with you.
A few weeks ago, I got in my car and drove nonstop from Jacksonville FL to Connecticut ... 1100 miles. Decided to drive as a stress reliever ... ignoring the phone and enjoying the music loud. Arrived in CT and called my wife to tell her that I had arrived safely. That's when my wife told me that my mom died early that morning but my brother told her to not call me until I had arrived at my destination. My passport was back at home and I could not get on a flight without it so I missed her funeral. Been in a funk for three weeks too. Life is precious!
Yohan, that is so sad, and I am sorry about your loss. |
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psantos
571 Posts |
Posted - 05/15/2008 : 10:48:10 AM
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In all seriousness, its nice to see all the responses, and well wishers on the forum.
There really are some decent well intentioned individuals in our industry and on the forum.
Sometimes I am almost ashamed to admit I am in the mortgage business, we certainly have taken a beating in the press and been used and abused for political foder recently.
Props to all you guys on the forum!
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MISSIE
70 Posts |
Posted - 05/15/2008 : 1:21:30 PM
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A friend of mine died at age 33 of heart failure as well three years ago this July. I still think about her a lot. Basically what happened is she tried having children for several years and was unsuccessful so she resorted to infertility treatment and was successful. She had triplets. So the doctors did not monitor her closely and she was working long hours up until delivery date. The muscles in her heart started to expand and her heart was enlarged because it was too much for her body to handle.
Two years later, she starts feeling ill, very tired and with a bad cough for months. She goes to the doctor and they tell her her heart is only functioning 17% and was even treating with a geriatric doctor. She was hospitalized for a week, then released and put on medication. The last conversation she had with my good friend over the phone she said she knew she wasn't going to have a long life but maybe she'd make it to her 60s and she wanted to see her babies grow and they said a prayer over the phone. She passed away four hours later. Her babies were 2 1/2 years old when she passed.
Another friend of mine died four months before she did of a brain tumor at age 27. There were 400 people at his funeral because of the wonderful person he was and about 30 people gave a eulogy, including a lot of children and adolescents because he was a volunteer at the youth ministry at his church and he tried to help them lead a good life. It was probably the hardest and saddest funeral I've ever attended.
When I hear of stories like these, I think about how much we stress about our lives, financies, this profession, etc. But in the end, what really matters is your health and family. |
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jhaaland
93 Posts |
Posted - 05/15/2008 : 1:28:52 PM
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| you and his family are in my thoughts, i am sorry for your loss |
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kato
120 Posts |
Posted - 05/20/2008 : 09:49:03 AM
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| So sorry for you loss Chris, I am 42 now and just recently paying more attention to my weight and eating habits. I have three kids and just the thought of leaving them at such a young age scares the crap out of me. I try to enjoy them the most because you'll never know for sure weather is your last meal with them or not, the last "I love you" to her or the last chat with the little one. |
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EMScommercial
5138 Posts |
Posted - 05/20/2008 : 12:34:46 PM
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| thanks! |
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